samurai

HALLELUJA!!

Well, it's been a while and I hope this will at least get things rolling for now, but right now I'm just doing a regular discussion for now. Hope it will hold everyone off until I can get a chance to actually DO something for this community. I am so sorry for not really taking the time out for you guys but I've been so busy with work...I know it's no excuse because I've been unemployed and not doing shit for the community, but I just can't really come up with some good stuff, but however I do have one for this week.


What is your view on virginity?

Some cultures find virginity to be a blessing. Other's take it for granted. Everyday we may have chosen at one point to "wait for the right one" but then we come to find out we don't have the patience so we just dive right into the sexual bliss. I personally have been celibate (typo?) for almost a year now (not by choice mind you) but it really hasn't struck me much any...however I do find myself shaking and twitching lol. Well anyways, I used to take my virginity seriously. Didn't really want to have sex until I got married.....HAHAHAHAHA YEAH RIGHT!! Thanks to the corruption and the perversion of my older cousin, I was a horndog most of my life but I still managed to keep my sensitive and respectful side. So how about you guys? How was your life back when you first started into puberty and virginity and whatnot? What were your views on it? Were you originally planning to wait or are you STILL waiting? If there is anybody in this community that is still a virgin, I tip my invisible hat to you.
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Merry Christmas one and all!!

Hey guys! It's been a while since an update and I do apologize for that, but I want to let you all know I haven't been able to do shit because of the helladay oops...I mean Holiday Season and work and everything that I haven't had the time to update or make the things I was talking of making. I do apologize and hope you guys can please bare with me. I will try to have something up after all this holiday garbage is out of th way. I hope you all have a happy and wonderful Christmas. Well, that's all for now.

shitsurei shimasu,

Jester-san
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Heyyyyyyyyyyy Kids!

I know, I know it's been forever. I'm still alive. My new community has two members now, and I'm hoping to get more. So here's an update in my life, because yes, I've been way behind.

I'm single. In case I failed to mention it, I dumped Fox a while back for another guy. Then we broke up after like two months, so I've been single ince the beginning of September. I'm still friends with him, and he's a member of this community, as a matter of fact. Fox, on the other hand, has moved on a now has a girlfriend who's not even legal, but oh well, I'm trying to forget about him. I have a pretty cool job, and I no longer live with my folks.

So I'm having a guest this weekend. I've been talking to this guy who lives in Tampa (about a five hour drive south from where I live), and we're hitting it off well. I mean, I've never connected so well with anyone in my life. I'm also about to try my hand in hardcore S&M (domming, of course). We've discussed this, and it's what he likes. I'm also going to be busy showing him around my hometown (the wonderful city of Savannah), so we're in for a great time.

Later guys! Hope to clue you in on the gory details!!!

-Dear Tristessa
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I sent Dustin a letter yesterday. I feel kind of lame but I also feel some relief.
There's no saying what's going to happen from here, but at least the ball's in his court now and I don't have to worry my ass off about what to do.
I also have two varying opinions. One from an older lady I know who has told me other things that have all come true but who I'm still sometimes skeptical of, and one from Dustin's mom who hasn't talked to him about it but gave me her personal assumption. Before I tell you what the two opinions are, who would you think would have the more accurate perspective?
samurai

Pushed Back

Due to getting a job finally, I'm sad to say that I'm going to have to push the "new stuff" date to a later time. Right now is very hectic with training and I get really worn down. I'm not gonna stop working on ideas because I have a new job. I'm just not gonna be spending as much time working on it as I was going to. I'd say within the next couple of months I should have something up for you guys. So everybody please be patient with me. I just want you all to know I'm still here as well as Tristessa to answer any and all of your dating/sex questions as well as other member's input. We admire your loyalty to our community. Much thanks.

-JeStEr
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meatloaf

Role Reversal

Well, kiddies...In the pursuit of other interests, I've decided to resign as the head honcho of this poor little community and leaving it up to Jester. I'm still a member, and really just became the co-moderator. But my heart and soul wants to go into something else, and that's why I've decided to start a bartending community. Well, that's all for now, folks!

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Alright, so I saw Dustin on Sunday and things went better than planned although we're still not together.
We went out for a bit and then came back to my house and we were just sitting around talking about random stuff and he started staring out the window and looking kind of upset so I asked him what was wrong and he said nothing but he put his head down and started tearing up. So I told him he could tell me what he was thinking and feeling if he wanted to, but he just cried more. So I told him what I think and feel about everything as of right now and he accepted it really well and agreed with a lot of things I said. He said he missed me so much and that the week seemed really long without me and he loved me a lot but he wanted to think about stuff more and be absolutely sure that things weren't going to be like they were before. He said it's all just relatively fresh and he thinks he still needs to be by himself for awhile. But he held onto me and cried and put his face close to mine for a long time and he asked me to go out with him this weekend as well. So I guess that's good. However, he hasn't called me since.
So I still don't know what's going to happen. But I really hope things pull through. :S
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samurai

Jester's Discussion

There's something I need to get some opinions on, so help me out people. I was dating this girl once, and things were going well until some stupid shit surfaced. Well, to me, she is the kind of person who takes the little things just a WEEEEEE bit too seriously. Like I'll try to be nice and it just seems like I'm not being nice at all or maybe it's just not good enough. It feels like all I do is cause her anger or pain. She's a great gal though, I love the woman to death. She's an absolute sweetie, but man she can be so damn weird sometimes. She can tend to be an attention whore glutton at times as well. Well anyway, she and I were talking last nite about our breakup and why it happened. It's funny considering she felt betrayed by me and at the same time, I felt like I was being dumped because she wasn't getting her way. Well, funny how we both weren't even INTENDING on that at all. She dumped me because she felt like I betrayed her and did her wrong in the fact that I couldn't get her to come spend time with me because my 'rents are being hypocrites and not wanting to help someone in need. I did the best I could, and yet I get burned for not getting results. After discussing and settling our differences last nite, she asks me "So where do we go from here?" which is funny considering how I get to chose this fate of our relationship. So I'm now in a very confused state of mind. I want to take her back, but at the same time I seem to cause her nothing but pain and anger. I can't seem to make her happy. Last nite I asked her "Come to think of it, has there EVER been a time where I made you happy?" and she goes "If you didn't, I wouldn't have stopped myself from commiting suicide". That was a mindfuck if I hadn't heard one. But I dunno. I know she's an attention whore glutton, but I dunno. She's unstable too (she even told me), but I can't really do anything via instant message or phone, I need to be there, but alas I can't do that either seeing as how I'm stuck in this crappy disfigured shell of a body unable to get out to her. I dunno. I want to be with her, but at the same time I don't wanna cause her anymore pain, nor do I want the fear of fucking something up. I'm really leaning towards solitude. I really like it, but it gets old after a while *sigh*. Any feedback?

-JeStEr
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So as a *small* update to my last post:
I read the comments that Jester and Tristessa left and they suggested some really good things. I was actually going to go along with what Tristessa said about waiting maybe a month or so since the class that Dustin and I will take together starts exactly a month after we broke up and I figured I could talk to him after that.
But late last night, Dustin called me out of the blue, after only being apart for 3 days. It was really weird too, not in the sense of being uncomfortable but just the way he was talking. He was the one that called me but he really didn't have that much to say. He was just like,"Oh, I just wanted to see how you were doing and wish you luck on your exams." I told him I was doing okay and asked him if he was doing well. He just said, "No, not really....I'm alright I guess." And then he just paused and didn't really say anything else. So to break the silence I told him that I'd still like to see him on the weekend like he had said if he was still up for it. So he said he wanted to and then that was it. Kind of strange, to call your ex of only three days up for smalltalk.
Now I don't know if I should talk to him earlier. Maybe meet halfway between Jester's and Tristessa's advice? Little more time but not too late?
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1. Nobody has posted in badvice for a REALLY long time and we should get it going again.
2. I have a relationship thing to talk about anyways.

Okay, so me and Dustin broke up on our one year anniversary. We had been fighting a lot over petty things because a)I have horrible self esteem b)we started spending way too much time together. He broke up with me, and told me that we might get back together, we might not, but he needed time to think because he doesn't see how it can work right now. I used this time to think also and I realized that my self-esteem needed working on. Result: I found a book on controlling emotions, anxiety, feeling good about yourself, etc. and read that and as hokey as it sounds, it really does help. I also realized that we were together way too much to think about the situation objectively so we never did anything to work it out even though we said we would because we just didn't have time or room to breathe and hear ourselves think about what the problem was and come up with an appropriate solution. I thought of many things that could help us work things out and I would like to talk to him about this, but I'm worried about:
- when the right time to talk to him about this is/leaving it too late/rushing it
- him possibly reaching the conclusion that nothing can be done and then dismissing what I tell him

Suggestions? All would be greatly appreciated.
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